Cry like a Girl
Today I'd like to be super real with you guys! I'm going to go through the two most common things that people say to me that used to affect me the most, and sometimes still do. It doesn't matter if they are joking or not, these two phrases are always tough for me to hear.
A Cry Baby
I am a very emotional person. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and when I need to cry, or feel the tears coming, there's no way for me to hold them in. Even if, for example I'm in public and I want to hold back my tears, once I feel them coming, there's no stopping them. I used to be so embarrassed about this Sometimes, it still is so upsetting that as much as I want to be strong, I just can't keep myself from crying. This has led to me being called a crier, a big baby, sensitive, etc. People often call me a baby as a joke but what they don't know is that it hits pretty hard every time. I want to project a strong and confident image but being emotional makes that so difficult.
For a long time I resented that I was never able to keep in my tears. I wanted to be tough and I hated that I had literally no control over it. Then, one event, changed that. I was on vacation and all of the sudden police boats, firemen, etc. were everywhere. Someone was missing on the beach and everyone was looking. We watched from our balcony, and were trying to see what was going on. This is when I started to get emotional thinking of the person, their family, what if it was a kid, etc. This is where someone turned around and said "Wow you have such a big heart that you care so much for a stranger." and this is the moment that has stuck with me for so long. I am not weak, or a cry baby, people just don't understand my heart and how deeply I care. My emotions are no weakness, they are the very thing that keeps me motivated, passionate and caring.
I am a very emotional person. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and when I need to cry, or feel the tears coming, there's no way for me to hold them in. Even if, for example I'm in public and I want to hold back my tears, once I feel them coming, there's no stopping them. I used to be so embarrassed about this Sometimes, it still is so upsetting that as much as I want to be strong, I just can't keep myself from crying. This has led to me being called a crier, a big baby, sensitive, etc. People often call me a baby as a joke but what they don't know is that it hits pretty hard every time. I want to project a strong and confident image but being emotional makes that so difficult.
For a long time I resented that I was never able to keep in my tears. I wanted to be tough and I hated that I had literally no control over it. Then, one event, changed that. I was on vacation and all of the sudden police boats, firemen, etc. were everywhere. Someone was missing on the beach and everyone was looking. We watched from our balcony, and were trying to see what was going on. This is when I started to get emotional thinking of the person, their family, what if it was a kid, etc. This is where someone turned around and said "Wow you have such a big heart that you care so much for a stranger." and this is the moment that has stuck with me for so long. I am not weak, or a cry baby, people just don't understand my heart and how deeply I care. My emotions are no weakness, they are the very thing that keeps me motivated, passionate and caring.
Such a girl
In high school especially, I would hear: "You're such a girl" and to this day I guarantee that people think I am the girliest person in the world. The truth is, this is halfway right. I am very girly, I love shopping, girls nights, pink aesthetics, makeup, etc. but I my favorite color is also green, I don't like to be surrounded by pink and I rarely wear it, I enjoy fashion a lot but most days you'll find me in sweatpants. So yes, to an outsider, I am a girl, who always has a nails painted, loves to read romances and is also in love with fashion but I am so much more than that. Calling someone "girly" as though it's bad, or all they are, just isn't right.
Being emotional and girly have lead to people calling me weak or dramatic. But I want to be clear here, I am not weak. I cry, I am girly and yes, everyone has dramatic moments, but I am also smart, funny, fierce and loving. I am the hardest worker and loyal to the core. So yes, maybe you see me as weak, but I think I'm just strong in ways some people don't understand. These words still hurt and I still struggle with not allowing them to get to my head, but I know who I am and I know that showing them wrong isn't going to change anything. So work in silence and let your success speak for you. Kill them with kindness and show them the beauty in your "flaws" and when they have nothing left to say? Thank them for pushing you to be who you are today.
Thanks for reading my gems, and comment below what words are hard for you and how you overcome them!
Talk soon,
T.
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In high school especially, I would hear: "You're such a girl" and to this day I guarantee that people think I am the girliest person in the world. The truth is, this is halfway right. I am very girly, I love shopping, girls nights, pink aesthetics, makeup, etc. but I my favorite color is also green, I don't like to be surrounded by pink and I rarely wear it, I enjoy fashion a lot but most days you'll find me in sweatpants. So yes, to an outsider, I am a girl, who always has a nails painted, loves to read romances and is also in love with fashion but I am so much more than that. Calling someone "girly" as though it's bad, or all they are, just isn't right.
Being emotional and girly have lead to people calling me weak or dramatic. But I want to be clear here, I am not weak. I cry, I am girly and yes, everyone has dramatic moments, but I am also smart, funny, fierce and loving. I am the hardest worker and loyal to the core. So yes, maybe you see me as weak, but I think I'm just strong in ways some people don't understand. These words still hurt and I still struggle with not allowing them to get to my head, but I know who I am and I know that showing them wrong isn't going to change anything. So work in silence and let your success speak for you. Kill them with kindness and show them the beauty in your "flaws" and when they have nothing left to say? Thank them for pushing you to be who you are today.
Thanks for reading my gems, and comment below what words are hard for you and how you overcome them!
Talk soon,
T.
XX
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